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From Me to We:

Secure Functioning in Adult Relationships

with Dr. Diane Poole Heller and Dr. Stan Tatkin

Discover a practical and dynamic approach that equips clients with powerful skills to break repetitive patterns and establish a two-person system built on collaboration and mutual support.

How can we help our clients break free from repetitive and painful patterns that jeopardize their relationships?

Your clients deserve loving relationships that remain strong and connected despite life’s challenges.

Yet, early attachment experiences directly shape the expectations, perceptions, and behaviors they carry into adult relationships.

When either person is unaware of, or unable to articulate their needs and emotions, their insecure attachment patterns activate their negativity bias, leading them to “fill in the blanks” and make unwarranted assumptions that escalate tensions and result in conflicts.

As these unresolved wounds resurface during therapy sessions, they amplify emotional arousal, transforming your role from healer to mediator.

The challenge is that unresolved attachment patterns and unspoken expectations hinder communication and repair, trapping the couple in a relentless cycle of repetitive arguments.

In this cycle, each partner operates as a one-person system, prioritizing their individual needs over the relationship’s well-being.

How can we help clients shift from a one-person psychology to a two-person system where they prioritize the relationship first––taking care of themselves and each other at the same time?

Therapists can encourage couples to embrace collaboration, connection, and co-regulation, laying the foundation for a secure functioning relationship.

By acting as a unified team with a shared vision and protective boundaries against both internal and external challenges, couples establish a two-person system rooted in mutual support and cooperation, where each partner actively shields the other (and the relationship itself) from external threats and stressors.

A two-person system emphasizes interactions filled with love, compassion, and empathy, where each partner tends to the other’s needs without compromising their own—allowing couples to break free from repetitive patterns that sabotage the relationship.

While we, as therapists, may have numerous interventions at our disposal, many don’t adequately prepare clients to consistently prioritize the relationship, particularly during challenging times.

The good news is that anyone can improve our relational skills––even those of us with insecure attachment patterns.

We need an attachment-focused approach that gives partners the tools to emotionally support one another, communicate more effectively, ensure mutual safety, and balance individual and shared needs.

“Putting the relationship before anything and everything else means putting your partner’s well-being, self-esteem and distress relief first.

And it means your partner does the same for you. You both agree to do it for each other—and say to each other, “WE come first.”

– Dr. Stan Tatkin

Improve your clinical skills to effectively treat even the most challenging couples…

The next topic in our monthly training series…

From Me to We:

Secure Functioning in Adult Relationships

Taught by Dr. Diane Poole Heller and Dr. Stan Tatkin

Deepen your understanding of relationships, gain new skills and insights, learn valuable tools to support your work with clients.

Here’s What We’ll Cover In The Next 6 Months

Includes LIVE teaching, tools, strategies, interventions, and exercises—PLUS detailed walkthroughs of recorded process work demos with course participants—so you can feel more capable, confident, and effective in treating even your most challenging clients.

All LIVE monthly sessions meet online for 2 hours on Tuesdays

MONTH 1: November 7, 2023 @ 11 am-1 pm MT

Attachment & Conflict

Attachment injuries limit our capacity to respond to perceived threats during times of stress, which often leads to misattunements, miscommunication, and conflict.

For couples, it’s especially problematic when one or both partners has insecure attachment––where they misinterpret nonverbal cues like micro expressions, body language, or tone of voice as threats, which can quickly escalate emotional arousal.

In this month’s training, you’ll explore how neurobiology and unresolved attachment wounds influence miscommunication and unhealthy relationship patterns. By tracking nonverbal cues, like tone of voice and body language, you can uncover clients’ underlying needs and attachment histories. You’ll also learn techniques to improve your own attunement and detect shifts in ANS arousal—so you can respond appropriately and help clients participate actively in the healing process.

MONTH 2: December 12, 2023 @ 12:30 pm-2:30 pm MT

Safety & Security

For therapists, it’s essential to create a safe and secure environment while clients navigate their emotional wounds and relationship challenges.

But in order to do so, we must be able to model emotional regulation—to monitor own emotional state while simultaneously tracking real-time shifts and subtle nonverbal cues in one or both partners.

In this month’s training, you’ll learn how to recognize when a threat response has been activated, so you can respond quickly and appropriately to clients and teach them how to protect their own sense of safety and security in the relationship. We’ll focus primarily on issues that often activate threat and escalate into conflict such as lack of reliability, poor management of thirds, and betrayal. Dr. Tatkin will show you interventions to use with couples to challenge maladaptive defensive behaviors—without activating each partner’s threat response––to encourage them to work more closely as a team.

MONTH 3: January 9, 2024 @ 11 am-1 pm MT

The Mismanagement of Thirds

“Thirds” are external factors—parents, work commitments, an ex-partner, time-consuming hobbies, technology, or addiction for example—that come between the couple or negatively influence the relationship dynamic. Mismanagement of thirds refers to the inability of one or both partners to appropriately prioritize their relationship over these external influences, which often leads to feeling of neglect, jealousy, insecurity, or betrayal that can erode the bond and trust between partners.

Unsurprisingly, thirds exacerbate conflict and misunderstanding, and can easily ruin relationships—often contributing to the failure of many second and third marriages.

In this month’s training, you’ll learn therapeutic skills to quickly assess potential relational threats, including how to spot and mitigate deal breakers. Additionally, you’ll explore other interventions to prevent further damage to the couple’s safety and security system.

MONTH 4: February 20, 2024 @ 12:30 pm-2:30 pm MT

Parenting

Many individuals begin their journey into parenthood without the tools and skills to handle its dynamics and challenges as a united front. Yet, children are one of life’s major stressors, and an insecure-functioning couple will falter under stressful conditions.

Secure partners who always put their relationship first based on secure attachment principles tend to raise children who are emotionally secure and feel loved. To do this, we must help couples align their parenting goals, communicate their expectations for roles and outcomes, and set clear guidelines—all while maintaining secure functioning in their own relationships.

In this month’s training you’ll learn how to help couples transition into a “parenting system,” within the protection of a functioning, two-person system—improving their ability and preparedness to expertly work together as a parenting team.

MONTH 5: March 12, 2024 @ 11 am-1 pm MT

Money & Transparency

Many couples argue about money and ownership—stemming from attachment issues that shape preconceived notions about who handles money, how to manage finances, and the transparency involved in sharing financial details and agreements.

Such insecurities can cause partners to withhold information, resulting in issues related to fairness, power dynamics, and a diminished openness within the relationship. Additionally, these transparency issues can again lead to safety, trust and security problems for the relationship.

In this month’s training, we’ll focus on how to create “containers” or the space and environment that holds, protects, and nurtures the emotional and psychological well-being of both partners within the relationship.

In particular, you’ll learn how to guide clients in the creation of their own “shared principles of governance.”

MONTH 6: April 23, 2024 @ 11 am-1 pm MT

Intimacy & Sex

Issues with sex and intimacy are probably the most common complaints among couples that drive them to therapy. Couples with secure functioning relationships are generally more comfortable with intimacy and tend to have more satisfying, trusting and long-term relationships.

The problem with couples where one or both partners have insecure attachment patterns is that a combination of unresolved trauma, neurobiological factors, and attachment experiences often intertwine—presenting challenges with sex, intimacy, and communication.

In this month’s training, you’ll learn about various causes and possible solutions to a multitude of sexual and intimacy complaints. Understanding attachment styles and their implications, including the neurobiology behind sexual arousal, desire, and performance, provides a lens through which the deep-rooted patterns and behaviors in relationships can be understood and addressed.

Join us! Learn directly from two top trauma and attachment experts...

All for only

$77/month

Our first live call is on November 7, 2023!

Therapy Mastermind Circle membership only opens up twice a year

Sign up now until November 6, 2023 at 11:59 pm PT

You’re protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education and clinical practice.

Try the Therapy Mastermind Circle membership 100% risk-free.

If, for any reason, you don’t feel it meets your needs, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team within 30 days— and we’ll happily issue you a refund.

For those with financial needs, a limited number of partial scholarships are available. Please contact our Customer Support Team for further information.

“Stan Tatkin’s heartfelt wisdom offers many practical skills to guide you and your clients toward secure functioning—and in a deeply perceptive, precise, and appropriately playful way. He is a true master of matches!”

–Dr. Diane Poole Heller

What is Therapy Mastermind Circle?

An annual online program where we meet monthly to explore pressing topics, share expert learning, and gain practical skills to help you and your clients thrive.

Explore a variety of deep and complex topics—highly relevant to your practice, and not covered often in traditional training programs.

Learn directly from Dr. Diane Poole Heller and other renowned experts ready to share years of professional, clinical experience.

Discover how to integrate new skills and highly effective corrective exercises and interventions with existing modalities to help clients grow and thrive despite their past trauma.

Discover a consolidated library of tools, training resources like slides, worksheets, and videos––plus, client case studies, clinical demos, interventions, and experiential exercises.

Join a safe, friendly and engaged community that supports you while you support others in their healing journey. Network with colleagues to practice new skills and techniques.

Stay current with the latest training tools and approaches—plus, you can purchase up to 12 CE credits every six months as you complete each training topic.

Who Should Join Us?

In Therapy Mastermind Circle, we take on topics that aren’t always taught in other training programs…

Our NEXT topic begins with our first live session on November 7, 2023
From Me to We: Secure Functioning in Adult Relationships

Here’s what’s included for just $77/month…

From Me to We:

Secure Functioning in Adult Relationships

Learn how to implement a practical and dynamic approach that equips clients with powerful skills to break repetitive patterns and establish a two-person system built on collaboration and mutual support.

Six LIVE 2-hour Interactive Training Sessions, plus Q&A with Dr. Stan Tatkin

Each month, join Dr. Tatkin and Dr. Heller for a LIVE, two-hour online session that includes live teaching, process work demos with class participants (including in-depth review on how to facilitate psychodramatic interventions), experiential exercises, and time for Q&A.

We’ll discuss topics extensively and share tools and strategies, so you can learn how to integrate and apply the work to your practice immediately.

Can’t attend live? Don’t worry, there’s always a replay available in your personal learning dashboard.

Eligible professionals can earn 12 CE credits!

“Process Work Lab:” Demonstration-Based Sessions with In-Depth Debriefs + Psychodramatic Interventions

This course teaches more than just theoretical concepts. Using recorded demos with volunteer course participants, Dr. Tatkin will show you how to facilitate psychodramatic interventions with clients and apply the work to your personal and professional life.

The detailed debriefs deepen your understanding of the ethos, therapeutic narrative, and goal of this approach to couples’ work, and provide insights into how you can integrate this work with existing modalities during therapeutic sessions.

Private Course Portal with Downloadable Access to Video, Audio, Transcripts + Handouts and Course Resources

Every live training will be recorded. The recorded replay will be available in video, audio, and written format—so you’ll be able to access content 24/7/365 when you need it.

If you miss a training session, want to download transcripts and use them for reference and note-taking––or you want to revisit the demos for specific cases at a later date––you’ll be able to do so at your convenience.

Network with colleagues, ask questions and get support in our course portal.

Join us! Learn directly from two top trauma and attachment experts...

All for only

$77/month

Our first live call is on November 7, 2023!

Therapy Mastermind Circle membership only opens up twice a year

Sign up now until November 6, 2023 at 11:59 pm PT

You’re protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education and clinical practice.

Try the Therapy Mastermind Circle membership 100% risk-free.

If, for any reason, you don’t feel it meets your needs, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team within 30 days— and we’ll happily issue you a refund.

For those with financial needs, a limited number of partial scholarships are available. Please contact our Customer Support Team for further information.

About Your Instructors

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher and developer of a Psychological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT).

He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, CA––and, with his wife, Dr Tracey Tatkin, co-founded the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practice. He leads PACT programs in the US and internationally.

In addition, Dr. Tatkin teaches and supervises family medicine residents at Kaiser Permanente, Woodland Hills, CA, and was an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine.

He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a member on Relationships First Counsel, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.

He’s also a bestselling author and has written seven books (and co-authored another) about relationships, including his most recent book, In Each Other’s Care.

Diane Poole Heller PhD, is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and teaching expert in the field of adult attachment theory and trauma resolution.

Her signature approach—DARe (Dynamic Attachment Re-patterning experience)—provides therapists and individuals with relevant skills and practical exercises that facilitate healing from attachment and trauma wounds.

Her work with adult attachment has forged a path for adults with childhood attachment injuries to develop Secure Attachment Skills (SAS) that lead to more connected and fulfilling adult relationships. Through various training programs, books, lectures and her own work as a clinical therapist, Dr. Heller has helped a countless number of people in their healing journey towards experiencing greater intimacy, wholeness and more fulfilling relationships.

She believes that when we heal ourselves first, we heal our families, our communities and the world as a whole.

Continuing Education (CE) Credits

Licensed Mental Health Professionals

Do you need CE credits?

You may be able to purchase 12 CE credit hours for this program, for an additional fee of $89.

Course Level: Beginning to advanced practice professionals

Target Audience: Licensed mental health professionals

Continuing Education Credit has been approved for the following professions:

*ONLY THE LIVE ONLINE SESSIONS ARE APPROVED FOR CE CREDITS.

To be eligible, professionals must attend ALL SIX live sessions. Attendance will be taken to verify eligibility.

A Certificate of Completion is available to all participants at the end of the course at no additional charge upon request.

It is the participants’ responsibility to check their individual state boards to verify CE requirements for this state. For detailed information regarding CEs, please contact our Customer Support Team.

Credit Information

Joint Accreditation Statement

In support of improving patient care, this activity has been planned and implemented by Amedco LLC and Trauma Solutions. Amedco LLC is jointly accredited by the Accreditation Council for Continuing Medical Education (ACCME), the Accreditation Council for Pharmacy Education (ACPE), and the American Nurses Credentialing Center (ANCC), to provide continuing education for the healthcare team.

Psychologists

APA Credit Designation Statement

This course is co-sponsored by Amedco and Trauma Solutions. Amedco is approved bythe American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. Amedco maintains responsibility for this program and content. Maximum of 12 hours.

The following state boards accept courses from APA providers for Counselors:
AK, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DC, DE, FL, GA, HI, IA, ID, IL, IN, KS, KY, MD, ME, MO, NC, ND, NH, NE, NJ, NM, NV, OK*, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI, WY

MI: No CE requirements.
*OK: Accepts APA credit for live, in-person activities but not for ethics and/or online courses.

The following state boards accept courses from APA providers for MFTs:
AK, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DE, FL, GA, IA, ID, IN, KS, MD, ME, MO, NE, NC, NH, NJ, NM, NV, OK*, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VA, WA, WI, WY

AL MFTs: Credits authorized by NBCC or any other state licensing agency will be accepted.

MA MFTs: Participants can self-submit courses not approved by the MAMFT board for review.

The following state boards accept courses from APA providers for Addictions Professionals:
AK, AR, CO, CT, DC, DE, GA, IA, IN, KS, LA, MD, MO, MT, NC, ND, NE, NJ, NM, NY (held outside NY Only), OK*, OR, SC, UT, WA, WI, WY

The following state boards accept courses from APA providers for Social Workers: AK, AR, AZ, CA, CO, DE, FL, GA, ID, IN, KY, ME, MN, MO, NE, NH, NM, OR, PA, VT, WI, WY

Social Workers

ASWB Credit Designation Statement
As a Jointly Accredited Organization, Amedco is approved to offer social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) Approved Continuing Education(ACE) program. Organizations, not individual courses, are approved under this program. State and provincial regulatory boards have the final authority to determine whether an individual course may be accepted for continuing education credit. Amedco maintains responsibility for this course. Social workers completing this course receive 12 continuing education credits.

The following state boards accept courses offering ASWB ACE credit for Social Workers:
AK, AL, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DC, DE, FL, GA, HI, ID, IL, IN, IA, KS, KY, LA, ME, MD, MA, MI, MN, MS, MO, MT, NC, ND, NE, NH, NM, NV, OH, OK, OR, PA, RI, SC, SD, TN, TX, UT, VT, VA, WA, WI, WV, WY

* WV accepts ASWB ACE unless activity is in live in West Virginia then an application is required.

The following state boards accept courses offering ASWB ACE credit for Counselors:
AK, AR, AZ, CA, CO, CT, DC, FL, GA, IA, ID, IL, IN, KS, MA, MD, ME, MO, ND, NE, NM, NH, NV, OK, PA, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI, WY

The following state boards accept courses offering ASWB ACE credit for MFTs:
AK, AR, AZ, CA, CO, FL, IA, ID, IN, KS, MD, ME, MO, NC, NE, NH, NM, NV, OK, PA, RI, TN, TX, UT, VA, WI, WY

MA / MFTs:
Participants can self-submit courses not approved by the MAMFT board for review.

The following state boards accept courses offering ASWB ACE credit for Addictions Professionals:
AK, CA, CO, CT, GA, IA, IN, KS, LA, MO, MT, ND, NM, NV, OK, OR, SC, WA, WI, WV, WY

Learning Objectives

At the end of this course, participants will be able to:

Join us! Learn directly from two top trauma and attachment experts...

All for only

$77/month

Our first live call is on November 7, 2023!

Therapy Mastermind Circle membership only opens up twice a year

Sign up now until November 6, 2023 at 11:59 pm PT

You’re protected by our 100% Satisfaction Guarantee

We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education and clinical practice.

Try the Therapy Mastermind Circle membership 100% risk-free.

If, for any reason, you don’t feel it meets your needs, please contact our friendly Customer Support Team within 30 days— and we’ll happily issue you a refund.

For those with financial needs, a limited number of partial scholarships are available. Please contact our Customer Support Team for further information.

Frequently Asked Questions

How can we help you?

No you do not. While most of the people who join the Therapy Mastermind Circle membership are both novices and experienced practitioners, we do sometimes have non-therapists join us as we explore a variety of in-depth topics on a monthly basis.

Since this particular cohort includes demonstrations with class participants and experiential teaching, we do encourage any non-therapists who choose to join us to have therapeutic support in place, as the material covered in our monthly modules is not meant as a substitute for therapy. If you are currently working with a mental health professional, we encourage you to invite them to join this program as well.

This topic is highly relevant for psychologists, therapists, and other mental health and behavioral professionals such as life coaches, bodywork practitioners, and counselors who work with clients and patients in a professional or clinical setting—and who need additional tools and skills to work with the complexities of intimate relationship or need a safe space where they can share and practice new skills.

Each monthly live session will be streamed live via Zoom online on Tuesdays. Additionally, you’ll be able to submit questions each week through the private course portal and during the live session, which includes time for Q&A.

Every call will be recorded and stored inside the private course portal, so you may review it at your own pace. However, we highly recommend you attend live so you don’t miss live teaching.

Therapy Mastermind Circle is an annual program with rotating 6-month topics. You have lifetime access to the learning portal and materials for every 6-month topic you complete, including videos, transcripts, worksheets, exercises and bonuses. You may also download or print the materials at any time to your professional reference library. In the interest of privacy, demo videos may never be downloaded.

If you cancel your membership to Therapy Mastermind Circle before completing the current 6-month topic, you will have 30 days—from the time you give notice of your cancellation—to download the materials for your personal use. The current membership rate is $77/month, which will be applied as long as you continue your membership. If you cancel your membership at any time and rejoin the program at a later date or topic—monthly rates may be subject to change.

We would love to have you join each session live, but if you are unable to do so, that’s ok—all sessions and training calls (including the Q&A) are recorded and stored in your professional reference library, so you can still receive the information and coaching you need.

Additionally, the program materials (including audio recording, video recordings and transcript from each session) are yours to download and keep in your professional reference library. This will be useful for some sessions that you will want to listen to or watch more than once.

Plus, you can always submit a question via Kajabi (the learning portal) outside of the live sessions.

It’s a great place to ask questions, share insights and get support from Dr. Tatkin or Dr. Heller and your colleagues at any time.

The LIVE, ONLINE sessions for this course have been approved for a total of 12 CE credit hours. If you are a licensed clinical professional counselor or a licensed social worker—you may purchase these CE credits for an additional fee of $89 via our website.

CE credits must be purchased by the beginning of the last live session—April 24, 2024. Attendance will be taken to verify eligibility.

Upon completion of the program, you will be sent an activity evaluation link, which must be completed within 60 days after the last program session (by Saturday, June 22, 2024). Upon completion of the activity evaluation, participants can print their certificate or statement of credit immediately.

Also, a Certificate of Completion is available to all students at the end of the course upon request at no additional charge.

Note: It is the participants responsibility to check their individual state boards to verify CE requirements for their state. For detailed information regarding CEs, please contact our Customer Support Team.

We do offer a limited number of partial scholarships for students who attend an accredited university. Reduced enrollment rates are also available for those with limited resources in countries defined as low and lower middle income by the World Bank. Please contact us for more information.

If you have additional questions or need technical support, please contact our Customer Support Team for help.

We’re confident this program will be a valuable investment in your education, personal growth and clinical practice.

If for any reason you decide to withdraw, simply contact our Customer Support Team in writing on or before Wednesday, December 6, 2023. Refunds will be issued in the same form of payment made, and may take up to four weeks to process.